Weddings

wedding

You may be thinking about where to get married.  Here at Christ Church we would be delighted for you to choose to have this important date celebrated at our church.

You can get married in our church if just one of these criteria applies to you.

*  one of you was baptised or prepared for confirmation in our parish (and that includes Cottage Lane Mission) ;

* one of you has lived in our parish at some time in your life for at least six months

* one of you has at any time regularly attended church services here for at least six months

* one of your parents has lived here for at least six months since you were born;

* one of your parents has regularly attended church services here for at least six months since you were born

* your parents or grandparents were married here.

There is special provision for those who have been divorced – please contact the vicar who will explain the guidelines published by the Diocese.  Essentially this is at the discretion of the Bishop of Liverpool.

Pastoral Introduction from Common Worship

A wedding is one of life’s great moments, a time of solemn commitment as well as good wishes, feasting and joy. St John tells us how Jesus shared in such an occasion at Cana, and gave there a sign of new beginnings as he turned water into wine. Marriage is intended by God to be a creative relationship, as his blessing enables husband and wife to love and support each other in good times and in bad, and to share in the care and upbringing of children.

For Christians, marriage is also an invitation to share life together in the spirit of Jesus Christ. It is based upon a solemn, public and life-long covenant between a man and a woman, declared and celebrated in the presence of God and before witnesses. On this their wedding day the bride and bridegroom face each other, make their promises and receive God’s blessing. You are witnesses of the marriage, and express your support by your presence and your prayers. Your support does not end today: the couple will value continued encouragement in the days and years ahead of them.

Love is patient; love is kind;

love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude.

It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;

it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth.

It bears all things, believes all things,

hopes all things, endures all things.

1 Corinthians 13.4-7

BOOKING THE DAY

Our experience is that it is usually much easier to book the church than the reception.  So you may prefer to provisionally book the reception, then make contact with us. Any day except Sundays and public holidays.

Simply e-mail, phone or write to the Vicar with any questions or enquiries.   He will then send you an application form (which you may also download here)

Your wedding is not formally booked until you return the application form duly signed by both of you.

BANNS

The legal preliminary for a wedding service in church is normally the publication of banns over three consecutive Sundays in the parish church or churches where you both live

If you both live in our parish, then your banns are simply called here, at Christ Church.

However, if one of you lives outside our parish, then you need to arrange for your banns to be called in the parish church where you live. You must do this at least four weeks before you are married: three months would be safer!  Once your banns are called the vicar or rector there will provide you with a certificate, which will be needed, for the service: this costs £34.

If you are on the Electoral Roll of a parish other than from where you live, you still need to arrange for the banns to be called in your resident parish.

ORDER OF SERVICE

We use the marriage service from Common Worship, unless you specifically request otherwise. You can access this on www.cofe.anglican.org/commonworship

Are you having a special leaflet printed?

f you are having your order printed, please send a draft to the vicar in good time.  Sample-wedding-order.

For the service you will need to choose some hymns, normally two or three.  Again the vicar or curate may help you choose hymns that are suitable for the occasion.
Popular hymns include:

23         All things bright and beautiful

400       Lead us, Heavenly Father

449       Love divine, all loves excelling

467       Morning has broken

486       Now thank we all our God

560       Praise, my soul, the King of heaven

649       The King of love my shepherd is

660       The Lord’s my Shepherd (Tune: Crimond)

You need to decide which music will be played at other points during the service:

THE ARRIVAL OF THE BRIDE

Water Music (Air and Hornpipe) – Handel

Toccata and Fugue in D Minor – J S Bach

Lohengrin (Bridal March) – Wagner

Arrival of the Queen of Sheba – Handel

Alle Danza – Handel

THE SIGNING OF THE REGISTER

Ave Maria – Gounod

THE DEPARTURE OF THE BRIDE AND GROOM

Midsummer Night’s Dream

(Wedding March) – Mendelssohn

Trumpet Voluntary – J Clarke

You may wish to leave the choice for all these pieces to the organist, June Nicholl and choir mistress, Eunice Woof.
You may wish to ask a friend to read the lessons from the Bible, which you yourself may choose from these passages:
Romans 12.1,2,9-13

Romans 15.1-3,5-7,13

1 Corinthians 13

Ephesians 3.14-end

Ephesians 4.1-6

Ephesians 5.21-end

Philippians 4.4-9

Colossians 3.12-17

1 John 3.18-end

1 John 4.7-12

Matthew 7.21,24-end

Mark 10.6-9,13-16

John 2.1-11

John 15.1-8

John 15.9-17

These are the  vows you will be taking.

The Declarations

N, will you take N to be your wife?

Will you love her, comfort her, honour and protect her,

and, forsaking all others,

be faithful to her as long as you both shall live?

He answers: I will.

The minister says to the bride

N, will you take N to be your husband?

Will you love him, comfort him, honour and protect him,

and, forsaking all others,

be faithful to him as long as you both shall live?

She answers: I will.

The Vows
(There is provision for alternative vows from Common Worship)

I, N, take you, N,

to be my wife,

to have and to hold

from this day forward;

for better, for worse,

for richer, for poorer,

in sickness and in health,

to love and to cherish,

till death us do part;

according to God’s holy law.

In the presence of God I make this vow.

They loose hands.

The bride takes the bridegroom’s right hand in hers, and says

I, N, take you, N,

to be my husband,

to have and to hold

from this day forward;

for better, for worse,

for richer, for poorer,

in sickness and in health,

to love and to cherish,

till death us do part;

according to God’s holy law.

In the presence of God I make this vow.

They loose hands.

The Giving of Rings

N, I give you this ring

as a sign of our marriage.

With my body I honour you,

all that I am I give to you,

and all that I have I share with you,

within the love of God,

Father, Son and Holy Spirit.

If rings are exchanged, they loose hands and the bride places a ring on the fourth finger of the bridegroom’s left hand and, holding it there, says;

N, I give you this ring

as a sign of our marriage.

With my body I honour you,

all that I am I give to you,

and all that I have I share with you,

within the love of God,

Father, Son and Holy Spirit.

If only one ring is used, before they loose hands the bride says:

N, I receive this ring

as a sign of our marriage.

With my body I honour you,

all that I am I give to you,

and all that I have I share with you,

within the love of God,

Father, Son and Holy Spirit.

FLOWERS

There are always flowers in church but you may wish to add some of your own.  If so, you should consult Victoria Foster who is in charge of the flower rota.  The vicar will give you her phone number.  She will advise you. You may remove any of your own display of flowers in church for the reception, except those on the Communion table.

PREPARATION

Marriage is a very serious step and we would like to do all we can to help you prepare for a fulfilling marriage. We are please to spend time with each couple to talk about what it means to be married, normally three months before the wedding itself.

Please phone the vicar to arrange this meeting.

Your wedding will normally be conducted by the vicar or curate.  You may prefer to have a simple rehearsal nearer the time. This can be arranged when you see the vicar or curate.

COSTS – revised annually in January.    These have been  completely revised by the Church of England from January, 2013

The total cost for the church service in 2015 is £518.

This includes organist, verger, calling of the banns here at Christ Church and the wedding certificate

You may also wish to include

Bells:  140

Choir: 80

Heating (Sept-April): 60

Please pay these fees in advance at the wedding rehearsal.  Make your cheque payable to Christ Church PCC.

However, please note that the fee for the bells is payable in cash on the day by the best man. It is his task to climb the church tower to pay the bell ringers.  However, because these are all volunteers, they may sometimes be unavailable during the week.

PHOTOGRAPHS

We are happy for you to have a photographer / video operator at the service to record this very special day.  Please note that you will need a video copyright license.  If it is raining, you may stay in church for photographs after the service – but please, no longer than half an hour.  A good idea is to plan your photographs in advance, to be overseen by the best man.

FINALLY

We wish you every happiness

in your life together

and pray that God

will bless you both in the years ahead.